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Talking Tough: Managing Difficult Conversations

Tough Talk

Difficult conversations are a fact of life, especially in the workplace. Whether you’re a manager or an individual employee, you’re likely to face a difficult conversation at some point. The key is to know how to manage them effectively.

Here are some tips on how to manage difficult conversations with employees:

1. Prepare for the conversation.

Before you have a difficult conversation with an employee, take some time to prepare. This includes thinking about what you want to say, as well as the employee’s perspective. Consider what their concerns might be and how you can address them.

It’s also important to choose the right time and place for the conversation. You want to be in a private space where you won’t be interrupted. It’s also important to allow enough time for the conversation, so that you can fully discuss the issue.

2. Start the conversation on a positive note.

Even though you’re having a difficult conversation, it’s important to start on a positive note. This will help to set the tone for the conversation and make it more productive.

You can start by thanking the employee for their time and then acknowledging their accomplishments. This will show them that you value them and that you’re not having the conversation to criticise them.

3. Be specific and objective.

When you’re discussing the issue, be specific and objective. Avoid making generalisations or accusations. Instead, focus on the employee’s behaviour and how it has impacted you or others.

For example, instead of saying, “You’re always late for work,” say, “On the past three occasions, you have been late for work by more than 15 minutes.”

4. Be open to feedback.

It’s important to be open to feedback from the employee during the conversation. This will help you to understand their perspective and to find a solution that works for both of you.

Ask the employee to share their thoughts and feelings about the issue. Be sure to listen carefully and avoid interrupting.

5. End the conversation on a positive note.

Even if the conversation is difficult, it’s important to end on a positive note. This will help to maintain a positive relationship with the employee and to show that you’re committed to working together to resolve the issue.

You can end the conversation by reiterating your expectations and by offering your support to the employee. You can also schedule a follow-up meeting to check in on their progress.

Here are some additional tips for managing difficult conversations with employees:

  • Stay calm and professional. It’s important to stay calm and professional throughout the conversation, even if the employee is upset. This will help to keep the conversation productive and avoid escalation.
  • Avoid getting defensive. It’s important to avoid getting defensive during the conversation. This will only make the conversation more difficult and unproductive.
  • Be respectful. Even if you disagree with the employee, it’s important to treat them with respect. This will help to maintain a positive relationship with them.
  • Focus on the solution. The goal of the conversation should be to find a solution to the problem. Don’t get bogged down in the past or in blaming. Instead, focus on moving forward and finding a solution that works for both of you.

Difficult conversations can be challenging, but they’re important for maintaining a healthy and productive workplace. By following the tips above, you can effectively manage difficult conversations with employees and achieve positive outcomes.

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